When “Nothing Is Wrong” Keeps You in the Wrong Life
“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” ~Carl Jung I was twenty-eight years old, standing in front of a mirror, reaching for my lipstick. I…
The Year I Tried to Optimize My Way into Love
“Not everything that can be counted counts, and not everything that counts can be counted.” ~William Bruce Cameron I noticed it halfway through the conversation. We were outside a café…
My Daughter Needed Me to Choose Better, So I Did
“Children learn more from what you are than what you teach.” ~W.E.B. Du Bois I was standing at the service bar, waiting for my drink order to be ready. The…
I Wanted Revenge; Here’s Why I Let It Be Instead
“To let go does not mean to get rid of. To let go means to let be.” ~Jack Kornfield I must admit right off the bat—as a serial entrepreneur, I’m…
What If Growth Is About Removing, Not Adding More to Your Life?
“Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything. Maybe it’s about un-becoming everything that isn’t really you, so you can be who you were meant to be in the…
6 Simple Things I Do When Life Feels Completely Overwhelming
“You can’t calm the storm, so stop trying. What you can do is calm yourself. The storm will pass.” ~Timber Hawkeye Overwhelm doesn’t always knock politely. Sometimes it crashes into…
How Understanding Complex Trauma Deepened My Ability to Love Myself
“Being present for your own life is the most radical act of self-compassion you can offer yourself.” ~Sylvia Boorstein In 2004, I experienced a powerful breakthrough in understanding what it…
The Beautiful Losses of a Childhood Moved to the Philippines
“The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.” ~Alan Watts I must admit, dear reader, that I…