7 Steps to Deconstruct Your Anger So It No Longer Controls You
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” ~Buddha For as long…
Why It’s Hard to Hold a Boundary and How to Make It Easier
“The only real conflict you will ever have in your life won’t be with others, but with yourself.” ~Shannon Adler I sat in my chemistry class during my junior year…
How I Created My Own Roadmap for Happiness When I Was Feeling Lost in Life
“Doing what you like is freedom, liking what you do is happiness.” ~Frank Tyger Life is a web of uncertainty, where we often believe we are on the right path,…
How I’m Learning to Feel Confident Without Approval
“Children need to feel seen. Adults do, too.” ~Unknown As a teenager, I played the flute for about nine years. I never practiced—apart from that guilt-ridden last half hour prior…
Why I Give Without Expectations (and Don’t Think It’s a “Toxic Trait”)
“Some of the kindest souls I know have lived in a world that was not so kind to them. Some of the best human beings I know have been through…
A Little-Known Truth About People-Pleasing and How to Stop (for Good)
“Being a people-pleaser may be more than a personality trait; it could be a response to serious trauma.” ~Alex Bachert Growing up in a home, school, and church that placed…
Dysfunctional Family Survivors: 7 Myths that Hold Your Healing Hostage
“I have never known a patient to portray their parents more negatively than they actually experienced them in childhood but always more positively–because idealization of their parents was essential for…
How a Barbell Helped Me Confront the Harsh Voice Inside my Head
“The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.” ~Elbert Hubbard I’m breathing fast; my heart rate is off the scale. I…